In part 1 of this series, I talked about the importance of this simple concept, getting comfortable being uncomfortable, as it pertains to fitness. Part 1 was probably the most widely recognized and relatable concept, as it could and should pertain to everyone, because everyone can use a good kick in the rear to get started, keep going, or to work harder.
So, Part 1 was relatable.
Part 2, which was all about relationships, became a very relatable piece without people realizing it prior to reading. But once you started reading you began saying to yourself “yep, I agree with that” or “yep, I need to do that”.
So part 1 and 2 were both relatable, part 2 just took some extra digging.
Part 3 y’all, you’re likely going to need to dig deep. Dig deep because we don’t like to realize that we are being complacent with our lives, and the one and only shot we have at it. Unfortunately, more times than not, that is how we live our lives- complacent without realization.
In order to reach your full potential, to see what this world truly has to offer for you, to live out your life so wildly in love with it, you need to get comfortable being uncomfortable. The changes you should be making in part here, they will be the most uncomfortable of all.
When you think about your life as is, what you’re doing, what you’re accomplishing, the people, events, and experiences you fill it with, what does it look like?
Does that match up to the goals, as lofty as they may be, that you have for your life?
Maybe you’ve got 1 area, maybe 2, where you can say “yes, THIS is how I want it to be for the rest of my life”. May that be your significant other, your kids, or where you live.
But what about the rest?
Do you have goals that are floating out there somewhere?
Maybe some within swimming reach.
Maybe some so far away that you’d have to rent out a yacht to get there.
Only, you can’t afford a yacht, so you leave them out there floating…. floating… floating…
So you tell yourself that you can’t afford that yacht, and that you will never be able to afford that yacht, because the risks, the sacrifices, and the effort it takes to afford that yacht are so far out of your comfort zone, it just doesn’t seem possible to you.
That is where getting comfortable being uncomfortable comes in.
THIS LIFE IS SUPPOSED TO UNCOMFORTABLE AT TIMES.
IT MEANS YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING NEW.
SOMETHING SO WILDLY FRESH IT WILL AWAKEN YOUR SOUL AGAIN.
Here’s where we fail at getting uncomfortable:
The first step
May this be the first step out of your comfort zone.
The first step into a new interview.
The first step into a new home.
The first step literally anywhere.
We have a hard time taking it because we like our comfort zone. It’s warm and fuzzy like a newborn baby all swaddled up.
It’s comfortable until it’s not.
But there’s a minor part before this first step that we fail at before we can even fail at taking the first step, it’s realizing that a first step is needed in the first place.
How do you know? How do you know it is time to take the first step, that any part of your life even requires that first step? Here let me help you….
If you can answer “yes” to any of these questions, then you’re ready, and in need, of taking the first step:
- Do you feel complacent in your job?
- Do you feel complacent in your relationship?
- Do you feel complacent where you live?
- Do you feel complacent in your friend circle?
- Do you dream of living somewhere else?
- Do your day dreams take you far away from where you currently are (physically or mentally)?
- Have you tried something new within the past year?
- How about the past 6 months?
- Have you lived your life according to your own terms?
- If you lived the rest of your life, exactly where and exactly how you are now, would you be happy with it by the end of your life?
If you didn’t have one single “yes” answer, then you my friend are a gem. That means you’re living your life to the freaking fullest. You’ve grasped opportunity, you’ve found your tribe, you have found and understand the importance of YOUR happiness.
And if you didn’t have one single “yes”, go back through again to make sure you’re not lying to yourself.
And for those of you who did have a “YES”. Are you ready? Because it’s time to get stepping.
Here’s your cue, make the first step, and make it now.
Justifying our decisions
Once we’ve made that first step, for some wild reason, we feel the need to justify it. Both to ourselves and to our family and friends.
What’s wrong with that you might ask? I like to make sure I’m making the right decision, I like to let my family and friends in on it. FRIEND, NO. Just NO. Let your gut do the talking for one time in your whole freaking life. DON’T JUSTIFY IT. Tell yourself and your family that you are doing this because it is the best FOR YOU and you are so excited. Point blank, this feels right, and it feels right for you- RIGHT NOW. **Now, if there’s a significant other or kids involved, I hope you are all on board with it, maybe prior to making the decision to step**.
You’ve made the decision to take the first step out of your comfort zone and towards something more. Be proud as f*ck of that, wear that shit on your sleeve. And ignore the feeling to justify it.
It’s weird, isn’t? I’ve done it before, still feel the need to do it sometimes. We have grown into a society where we constantly have to explain ourselves. Social media is primarily to blame.
You’re moving? Got a new job? Cutting your hair? Cutting the cord on a friendship? Trying a new exercise routine? Sending your kids to a different school? Adopting a new dog? Taking a first step WHERE EVER?
Sweet good for you. You go Glen CoCo. Don’t explain it. Just do it. Shout it from the rooftops.
Coming to terms with it
Otherwise put, second guessing ourselves.
Unless you’re making a total on the spot, impulsive decision, then you’re giving yourself room to second guess yourself. I’m not saying to make every decision an impulse decision, not at all. I am telling you to prepare yourself to get uncomfortable again, the second time you have to make the decision to make the first step, or in this case, it’ll feel like the second step, out of your comfort zone.
We’ve all been there.
We make a decision, but it takes time to fully birth, so there is a period of time when we can second guess ourselves. Most of the time, we do. This is where it truly matters. I hope that you trust your gut enough, and trust your desire for more to not turn and walk back into your comfort zone.
Sometimes, in this period of coming to terms, we turn to those closest to us to talk about it. But beware, that can be equally helpful as hurtful. If this is a decision you made all on your own the first time, don’t let someone else talk you in or out of it. Is it uncomfortable being the only person to make that decision for yourself again? Hell yes. We like to feel secure in our decisions. But news flash, if you’re making a big life decision, you might not feel secure in that until months after. How freaking uncomfortable! Ride it out. Trust yourself, and trust the higher up. You might be uncomfortable for a few months, but that’s better than being uncomfortable knowing that you are still in the same freaking place as you’ve always been.
Running after you step
There is no turning back now. You’ve stepped, made the decision, shouted it from the roof top and squashed second guessing. It’s all in now.
Things will pick up speed, whatever this big life decision is, I promise you it will pick up speed. So lace up! It’s go time.
Take it from me, this part of being uncomfortable can turn into the most fun part. Things are spinning around you, but there is so much to see in that blur of newness and the unknown.
- Had we not realized we wanted to leave Iowa and the Midwest to see what else was out there for us.
- Had Alex not said yes to a job in Greensboro, NC.
- Had I said no to going with him because I was so sad about the thought of leaving my friends and family.
- Had we not moved to NC.
- Had I not gotten a job at Orangetheory Fitness.
- Had I not met people with connections to so much more.
- Had I not started volunteering with animal rescue
- Had we not done all of those things PLUS MORE we…. I…. wouldn’t be who I am today. I can tell you that I would be a slightly more bitter, more tired, less fulfilled version of myself who would constantly be thinking of the what-ifs and stuck in my day dreams.
But we went for it!
It was fast. I tried to hold on for dear life at times. But when I let go and let the rollercoaster of life take me where I’m supposed to be, when I laced up my shoes and ran with the wind, I learned to enjoy the ride. And holy hell what a ride it has been!
Was I uncomfortable at times? Hell yes.
I still am. Because we are still going for it, still saying yes to more and to new.
I like being uncomfortable. Because it means I’m feeling something new. It means I’m doing something new.
And with each step out of my comfort zone, that comfort zone grows smaller. It becomes a smaller zone to step back into, forcing myself to stay out of it.
And with each step out of my comfort zone, I’m getting closer to that yacht. Figuratively and literally. I will own a yacht someday. And when I do, I’ll grab that last piece of dream floating out there in the deep blue, only to find that there are more floating out there, ready for me to catch.
It’s the only way to LIVE.
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